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Showing posts with label Memorials. Show all posts
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Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Paola D'alessio

RantWoman thanks a college housemate's post on Facebook for this interview with astronomer Paola D'Alessio who died recently of cancer.

Interview in Spanish
http://www.lahuesuda.com/html/contenido.php?id=1252

Monday, December 23, 2013

Galina Evgeevna Orlova 10 May 1937 - 23 December 2013

Galina Evgeevna Orlova, one of the founders of Friends House Moscow, translator of Thomas R Kelly, Bill Taber and many other Quaker materials, passed away today. Blessings, prayers, gratitude for her life and all who loved and admired her!

Here is the Russian text of a memorial minute by Patricia Cockrell of Britain Yearly Meeting, as posted today on Facebook. Given last week's experience with Bing, I will either look for an English version of this item or provide one later this week.

Галина Евгеньевна Орлова
(10 мая 1937 – 23 декабря 2012)

Свои первые пятьдесят лет Галина Евгеньевна жила жизнью непримечательного советского гражданина. В университете она прошла обязательные курсы марксизма-ленинизма и вышла замуж за однокурсника Эрнста Абрамовича Красновского, изучавшего русскую литературу. После ВУЗа их вместе распределили на работу в школу на Камчатку, в девяти часовых поясах на восток от Москвы. Им нравилась и их работа и природа того края, но они скучали по культурной жизни столицы и были рады по окончании обязательного срока вернуться и устроиться работать учителями в Москве, где в 1968 году у них родился сын Глеб.

Галина впервые встретила упоминание о квакерах в одном из рассказов Николая Лескова. Ссылка в советской книжке поясняла, что это была секта, недолгое время существовавшая в Англии, а сейчас почти исчезнувшая. Поэтому, когда мы встретились у нее в школе в 1988 году, она была удивлена, узнав, что я квакер. Хотя у нас был очень плотный график, между уроков мы находили время поговорить о разном, но Галину особенно интересовали квакеры. В последующие годы, когда я со своими учениками по программе обмена приезжала к ней в школу, в моем багаже были книги и брошюры о квакерстве. Галине было интересно читать их, но чтение вызывало и чувство неудовлетворенности: частью из-за того, что она тогда не достаточно хорошо владела английским языком, а частью и из-за того, что каждый текст вызывал новые вопросы. Я посоветовала ей присоединиться к небольшой группе, проводившей в Москве молитвенные собрания по примеру Друзей, потому что квакерство должно быть прочувствовано на личном опыте, а не выучено по учебникам. Но это тоже не удовлетворило ее вдруг проснувшуюся жажду духовной жизни, хотя некоторые книги ей особенно понравились, в частности работы Томаса Келли и Уильяма Тэйбера на русском языке.

Галина завершила свою учительскую карьеру и посвятила себя изучению квакерской веры и практики. И для этого ей понадобилось улучшить свои навыки в английском языке. Она получила грант для прохождения курса обучения в Вудбрукском учебном центре, и там же она обратилась с заявлением и получила международное членство в Обществе Друзей. Она говорила о своем времени в Вудбруке, как о золотой возможности для внутреннего преобразования. Каждый день она участвовала в молитвенных собраниях и эпилогах, и до конца своей жизни сохранила привычку ежедневной молчаливой молитвы.

Когда она стала клерком только что признанного Московского месячного собрания, Галина с большим интересом читала о сути собрания и практических функциях клерка в книге Брайана Морли «За пределами консенсуса», которую она и группа Друзей перевели на русский язык.

1 января 1996 года, когда в Москве начал работу Дом Друзей, Галина стала его сотрудником. Она упорно шла по пути собственного духовного роста, и у нее хорошо получалось обучать как отдельных духовных искателей, так и группы квакеров на территории бывшего Советского Союза. Посетители офиса принимались с теплом и уважением. Для поддержки проектов Дома Друзей Галине пришлось много поездить – в том числе в Псков (поддержка детей-инвалидов), Краснодар (беженцы), Чечню (жертвы войны). Она также в течение многих лет посвящала уйму времени и усилий проекту «Альтернативы насилию», переводя материалы, готовя фасилитаторов, участвуя в работе Совета проекта.

Глубоко преданная целям Дома Друзей, Галина была несколько лет членом правления этой организации после того, как в 2004 году болезнь вынудила ее выйти на пенсию.Затем она посвящала себя уходу за внуком Кириллом, одновременно с мужеством и смирением борясь с постоянно возрастающими печальными симптомами болезни Паркинсона.

Она никогда не искала себе наград и говорила правду, даже когда это было неудобно. Она жила скромно и имела минимум личных нужд. Галина говорила, что время, проведенное ею в Доме Друзей, стало радостным опытом учебы, совмещенной с большими возможностями поддерживать других людей и следовать своим собственным духовным путем.

Патриша Кокрэлл (Британское Годовое собрание)
Из свидетельств Божьей милости в жизни ушедших Друзей

Mikhail Kalashnikov dies

RantWoman is posting this item here with good intentions about writing somekind of a reflection on Kalashnikov's life and the weapons that bear his name.

http://www.businessinsider.com/mikhail-kalashnikovs-death-and-his-greatest-regret-2013-12

Even if this turns out to be only good intetions, a blog as filing cabinet item.

Saturday, December 14, 2013

Remembering / Preventing the Sandy Hook Shooting

RantWoman thinks some readers will be grateful only to look at the two items here as a memorial to the Sandy Hook Shootings.

First, a father of one of the murdered boys at a retreat with Thich Nhat Khan



Next, " Love all the Children" writing from Lucy Duncan
http://www.afsc.org/friends/love-all-children-disarming-our-hearts-after-shootings-sandy-hook-school

RantWoman readers who read the above and wonder where the hell the real RantWoman has gone will have another opportunity to find out shortly.

RantWoman is deeply moved by Lucy Duncan's words here. RantWoman is also happy to hold the cares of grieving parents who might not be anywhere near ready to think about all the other grief beyond them.

RantWoman does not hold these parents because she is Wonder Quaker. In fact, RantWoman alternates between "too much Buddhism makes me want to punch people" and "okay, may we sit with that.  RantWoman holds these parents in particular care because RantWoman remembers a time when she was deeply grieving the passing of RantDad. Somewhere along the way, someone said something that RantWoman now remembers as something like "What? You think you are the first person who has ever grieverd or the only person grieving?"

RantWoman remembers being TERRIBLY affronted and thinking that was just RUDE.

Rude?

And also incredibly helpful.  Uhhh ...

For now just hold this community in theLight.

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Day 8 Gratitudes and

Gratitude for current struggle
http://nbclatino.com/2013/12/04/film-justice-for-my-sister-becomes-movement-for-eradicating-violence-against-women/

Gratitude: The anniversary of the Montgomery Bus Boycott
http://www.montgomeryboycott.com/overview/

Gratitude for struggle: Nelson Mandela, July 18, 1918-December 5 2013.
RantWoman will write minutes today that begin:
"The meeting (conference call) opened with a period of silence and particular appreciation for the life of Nelson Mandela."

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-africa-25249520

"I was not a messiah but an ordinary man who had become a leadedr because of
extraordinary circumstances."
For to be free is not merely to cast off one's chains but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.
"education is the most powerful weapon you can use to change the world."




Josh Groban and Aretha Franklin at mandela Day 2009, You  raise Me up.
http://youtu.be/OqUBHTy0PRM

Brenda Fassie, Vuli Ndela with Mandela
http://youtu.be/wFBGeQL6Gzk


Seems the Biblical sins of our fathers visted on the seventh generation may apply among mice exposed to bad smells too. RantWoman apologizes for not having acitation, but since the point is thematic resonance, perhaps her readers and bear with the problem.

And from Johan Maurer
http://johanpdx.blogspot.com/2013/12/myths.html
withs riffs on fathers and sons, peace in the middle east...
The last of 8 nights of Light: RantWoman needs to declare time warp and inner blowtorch blazing in order to come back and riff on the interfaith psychodynamics behind why RantWoman does not have the most positive associations ever with dreidls. It's one of those circumstances that could have come together MANY ways. It just happens that in the realm of the RantFamily dreidls are a fine shorthand. But What's on RantWoman's mind deserves its own space and RantWoman does not want to try to compete with Nelson Mandela.

But in the realm of peculiar gratitudes and love managing gnarly realities, RantWoman is REALLY grateful both for various abuse prevention educational events around her Meeting and grateful that parents show up and interact in much more centerd and informed ways than the Rant Parents ever could. And.....

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Spooky, HIPAA Meets the Prayer Chain

RantWoman celebrates the season of Halloween and all Saints day and Samhain and numerous topics muddling back and forth between conscious and subconscious.




RantWoman has been jumping up and down intermittently with questions and reflections about what is desirable as far as shared understanding of confidentiality for members of pastoral care committees, members of care committees, RantWoman KNOWS this topic is complex. ONE problem is that when RantWoman has tried to speak and hear what others understand, RantWoman keeps hearing in response only "shut up" and "we don't have time." RantWoman is unclear whether that is all that is being said but is VERY clear that is what she is hearing.

Please hold that problem in the Light and feel free to stop here.



RantWoman is WAY overachieving about questions and concerns and means to start here with some elementary medical confidentiality. RantWoman needs readers' prayers in advance.



First RantWoman HOPES to convey that it IS possible to share meaningful information with more than enough cover phrases HOPEFULLY to convey the meaningful part without compromising confidentiality. In particular, the issue from RantWoman's perspective is either facts already known from a patient's relative or information from a public Meeting for Worship. Rantwoman is TRYING to hear a concern but is hyperventilating from her own life experience.



Second, RantWoman is going to find it REALLY difficult to have a sensible conversation about the topic if there cannot FIRST be room for RantWoman to ask Friends prayers specifically over one soap operaesque story and one long ago but still intermittently throbbing awful story from one of RantWoman's particularly frequent flyer spells of eye care.



Let's start with RantWoman's vast frequent flyer experiences.

The soap opera item: RantWoman spent the prep period for one of her hospital eye experiences listening to her doctor and the nurse from the hospital gossip about an office romance at the doctor's office. The office romance led to an unintended pregnancy and a wedding; RantWoman never quite knows what to do with the thought of medical practitioners experiencing unplanned pregnancy but found herself grateful for an update a few months later when opportunity finally presented itself to ask her own doctor how the situation turned out. RantWoman really did NOT need to know of the soap opera, but as long as she did....





Now the throbbing, RantWoman has trouble talking rationally about the item she means to season event. Warning: medical trauma details.



Once upon a time RantWoman had to have surgery for a detached retina. There are various ways to treat a detached retina. RantWoman wound up needing the most invasive wrap a band around the eyeball, fill the eyeball with a gas bubble and then keep one's head face down for a couple weeks while the gas bubble pastes the retina back where it belongs. The procedure is invasive; swelling can happen for LOTS of reasons.



(RantWoman is also aware that swelling can happen over issues not paid attention to because of not being appropriately documented in a medical chart or not acted on if it was there. RantWoman mentions this point because the possibility that it is on point. RantWoman also mentions this point with reference to a paper medical chart approximately the thickness of War and Peace. For better or worse, in spite of one "not appropriately documented" probability, RantWoman remains with the same medical group. One reason is that even as the office struggles with electronic medical records, RantWoman's current doctor gets out the entire three volumes of "War and Peace" a couple times / year and reviews some historical information available only in the paper chart. But RantWoman is getting ahead of herself and muddling time frames again.)



At the time of RantWoman's surgery one of the staff at RantWoman's eye care practice was the daughter of someone in RantMom's church in MT, someone who more than once transported RantMom when she herself was planning a trip to Seattle. RantMom was on the church prayer chain. RantWoman assumes that the other mother was too. As soon as RantMom heard that RantWoman needed surgery, there was probably a call to the prayer chain. Also afoot, a trip to Seattle with the Motoring Mothers due in Seattle the day after RantWoman's surgery, exactly at the hour that RantWoman expected to be at her one-day followup appointment.



RantWoman TOLD RantMom that she fully expected to be at her appointment and that the motoring mothers should just go to the other daughter's workplace. RantWoman assured RantMom that the other mother SHOULD know how to get to her daughter's workplace; RantWoman assumes she had been there many times.



RantMom INSISTED on stopping by RantWoman's apartment. RantWoman of course was not there. Then there was some further communications fiasco with Little Sister. Then daughter staffperson came to see RantWoman mid-appointment wanting to know where our mothers were.



Mid appointment meant that RantWoman was in the middle of some consent process needed to stick a needle in RantWoman's eye to drain fluid and reduce pressure. And somehow daughter staffperson also needed to reassure RantWoman that she had told her mother nothing! Of course not! It was the prayer chain. It had not even occurred to RantWoman to worry about the daughter sharing info inappropriately--UNTIL the daughter staffperson was fretting about it while RantWoman was trying to cope with the consent form and the probably should not happen need to stick a needle in the eye issue!



Somehow cellphone calls elicited the info that RantMom and the other Motoring Mother were using a payphone and a fast food place RantWoman would never have taken either of them to. FINALLY RantMom absorbed the point that she should just come to RantWoman's eye care provider.



Lately, literature Brain keeps telling RantWoman there are elements of this story in common with what RantWoman has come to see is probably a BIG "hold in the Light" issue from a recent series of conversations. Probably, but RantWoman does not apologize: she is completely incapable of working with the other conversation because she keeps tripping over her own needle in the eye issues before she can even TRY to talk rationally.



The other story: a while ago for a couple weeks a death / obituary / memorial announcement about a new attender's spouse ran in the weekly Bulletin at RantWoman's meeting. The announcement also evoked appreciative ministry in our second Meeting for worship from a medical provider who spoke in worship of getting to know the deceased over time. Ministering medical provider would not, from Meeting life, know the spouse but RantWoman does.



RantWoman has learned from the spouse the circumstances of the deceased passing. They involve the medical specialty and organization where the ministering medical provider works. IF RANTWOMAN HAD TO GUESS, RantWoman assumes that ministering medical provider knows the deceased through work though of course RantWoman would never ever expect the ministering medical provider to say as much.



RantWoman attended a memorial and met one of the deceased's children who also happens to be a medical provider. RantWoman was given the words to say: IF RantWoman had to guess.... expressed great admiration. The other medical provider thanked RantWoman for her words.

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Awash. Living Water

RantWoman has been awash in the Living Water.


Living Water round 1: OR Coast, Newport OR. A timeshare right on the water.

Part A: RAIN SQUALLS. Exuberant racket from seagulls sea lions, seals slurping up waste from a nearby fish processing plant. Memorial benches along the boardwalk commemorating sailors lost at sea. Some years there were people listed from multiple vessels. Probably stormy years.

Part B. Deepoe Bay. Waves crashing against walls of waterworn igneous formations, leaving tidal pools behind as the waves return to the sea. A view of Boiler Bay. Not called that because the water looks like it's in a boiler, though it does. Boiler Bay because a ship called the Boiler sank there.

Part C: No Tsunami Option vacation with #disasterprep included:

http://rantwoman.blogspot.com/2013/09/the-no-tsunami-option.html
RantWoman tried to walk up the tsunami evacuation hill. It would be a tough haul for RantWoman, never mind about RantMom. Go walk the boardwalk and listen to sea lions barking. They are loud and smelly and close, an improvement over an excursion possibility: cold and dark and smelly after an overpriced elevator trip down to some sea lion caves. Anyway, bank on the "no tsunami" option.

What means "we seek an earth restored" here?

Living Water, Round 2: 500-year floods down mountain valleys in CO. 22" of rain in a day or two; more water than usually falls for a whole year. Lots of roads along mountain valleys just GONE. RantWoman is peculiarly fascinated when Acts of God make human efforts crumble. The good news is RantBrother kadeit through a couple days of work doing flood cleanup before his body rebelled. Now he is back to looking after his own fashion for other work. The rest of family are poking at psychic cleanup options after his last visit.

Living Water: Quarterly Meeting.
Call down the fire of your justice; Call down the rain of your love. Ummm, wildfires burning miles to the south at the beginning of the month are by now a non-event. We still need rain, even in Friday traffic out of town or over the pass.

Plenary Bible Passage about a Samaritan woman and a Jew sharing water at the well. A big deal that they are drinking together even though the woman misses out on the Living Water because she does not know who Jesus is. Interesting approach to brand appreciation.
Plenary Promo: Friendly Water
http://www.friendlywaterfortheworld.com/
If RantWoman were going to go all intercultural on the #disasterprep efforts, she MIGHT want something like this in her home disaster resources.

Worship Sharing queries include no floods or tears; messages came about both, with riffs on brothers / parenting / loss / living / growing / mourning / hoping.

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Memorial because what else does one do?

RantWoman has little to add to the torrents of words already written about 9/11 and instead grabs some images in prayer.

A budweiser ad?
Uh-huh.
RantWoman does not buy the beer but does appreciate the ad.





WARNING: powerful, stunning, some will find upsetting!
A stunning reflection about all the people who jumped out of the burning towers.

http://www.esquire.com/features/ESQ0903-SEP_FALLINGMAN



And for a window into the spooky world of people trained and accustomed to thinking about what bad things might happen, a peculiar contribution to NationalPreparedness Month, #NPM2013, a History Channel item about RickRiscola, the Director of Security atn Dean Witter / Morgan Stanley and all of his drill practices.

http://youtu.be/w9jUEp_l7cE

Thursday, September 5, 2013

Condolences; Thunderous Braille

Worse Auntie offers condolences of the sort needed a few months after death when the grieving are sometimes assumed to have returned to normal. These condolences occured in the context of Worse Auntie doing something, getting eldered, and offering one of her trademark "You're darn right and here's my side." responses. One of these millenia RantWoman / Worse Auntie MAY yet evolve into a more consistently presentable human being. Or the worship angel woven into our community's worship experiences MIGHT become more precisely verbal and less persistently vexed by throbbing non-verbal resonances.



Dear Friend seated near RantWoman during the same Meeting for Worship after which RantWoman was called to elder....
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/06/ministry-not-ministry.html


Thank you for bearing with thunderously loud braille Sunday in Meeting for Worship. I think I am supposed to be contrite; I am not and I do not even apologize but I do promise to TRY to keep some kind of grip on the behavior. As I said,

1. I got a new stylus that I really like. It works! So it is loud. Sigh.

2. I WAS scrawling tasteless comments wildly inappropriate in their raw form but which did in fact make it through RantWoman's spiritual taffy pull to a blog post.,
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/07/free-nelson-mandela-free-nelson-mandela.html

3. The theme of suicide turned out in undercurrents to touch even more people than RantWoman had initially noted. That theme needs continual holding in the Light.

4. Considering all the people around with hearing loss, Worse Auntie SEASONING a desire to tell anyone who complains that they should be glad they have enough hearing to be bothered--AND glad if that's the worst problem of their day. But you were sitting right next to me and RantWOman thinks it's good that neither of us so far has yet clobbered our hearing, for instance with loud music.

But seriously, It took me all meeting to get most of the way to a message about how we never stop loving someone even long after they died. I don't know how things are going for you about (your recent loss) but if that death is weighing too heavily, please feel free to stop.

Now the simple possibly more than you want to know request: my condolences on your loss. Please hold me in the Light about losses in the same month: RantDad, a friend who died in a comical fizzle of nearby fireworks, and another friend, all different years, someone killed in an awful bicycle vs dump truck death from 4 years ago, the mother of someone who suddenly spoke very differently about her after her death than while she was alive...

And when I Am Not Interested in Your Thought Processes Friend opens his mouth, I sometimes find myself less confident that God is speaking than that Friend himself is; I was definitely having that problem in principle about his ministry; I am aware that might be MY problem. Sigh.

And how does thunderously loud braille help? I am right handed. I slate left-handed. I still have to think about contractions and freaky braille contraction orthography rules. AND expending all that physical and psychic energy is ONE way to keep a handle on all the definitely not appropriate for Meeting for Worship language sloshing around in my head. If being in Meeting for Worship really helps but I cannot be there without... sometimes I just need to do that.

Anyway, if you have made it this far, thank you for reading and consider yourself still held in the Light about your recent loss.

(RantWoman)

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Memorials, evaluating

1. RIP Manila envelope.

By the end of Annual Session this year, RantWoman's manila registration envelope was full of important things like:

--the Annual Session program

--extra query sheets and the worship sharing guidelines for her worship walking group

--a half-completed evaluation form

--copies of the Daily Bulletin under new editorship

--a stack of new FCNL bumper stickers. RantWoman occasionally meets people with bumpers to put bumper stickers on. More importantly RantWoman goes about taking notes in different meetings on different legal pads. FCNL bumperstickers are among the things RantWoman in "Let our lives speak" mode likes to paste on the back of tablets. Note to self: probably there are lots of ways to get more bumperstickers.


2. RIP Evaluation?
Alas, RantWoman's manila envelope somehow did not make it back to Seattle with her. RantWoman is not afraid to attach her identity to most of her opinions. RantWoman also tends to have more to say than fits in the spaces on evaluation forms but there is no electronic option available. So in the interest of the "how do you do that" thread of Quaker gatherings, RantWoman feels called to share more evaluation elements here.


3. "Let the dead bury their dead?"
Today's topic: Meeting for Worship for Memorials.

This year Meeting for Worship for Memorials bumped against the plenary where God needed to rearrange the agenda. RantWoman PROMISES to say more of what came to her from that but today she needs to start slowly. The main point for now: Meeting for Memorials was shorter than average anyway.

This year instead of reading the full memorial minutes, the Meeting for Worship for Memorial opened with someone reading the list of names, which for various reasons including a very recent death of someone who was not a member wound up not being complete. RantWoman is glad to have heard names added. RantWoman was glad to have a sense of time and space for Friends to offer more individual ministry in remembrance. RantWoman  (urk!) came in late and was grateful someone reread the list of names again towards the end of the time.

And...

RantWoman misses the "let our lives speak" aspects of reading Friends' full memorial minutes. RantWoman often LIKES the things she learns about people's lives, even people she does not know. Posting memorial minutes in tiny print on a wall in a noisy plenary room is not a substitute. RantWoman definitely assumes she is not the only one put off by tiny print on a wall or who just needs to hear something out loud and held by the whole group.

Also, RantWoman thinks offering at least something from each Friend's memorial minute would create a fuller sense of these Friends being present to those who attend. RantWoman wonders whether it MIGHT be possible to read a paragraph or two from each minute at the Meeting for Worship for Memorial.


4. RantWoman is seasoning a list of tweaks to suggest about various aspects of the Annual Session program. One that comes to mind is just to have a space somewhere during every time slot for open worship. RantWoman MIGHT think to put notebooks full of memorial minutes, epistles, and state of society reports in this room on a table so that people might have an opportunity to sit, read, hold worshipfully.

There.

Thank you for reading.

In the Light.

RantWoman

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

YAR on Trayvon Martin

From Young Anabaptist Radicals, about the Trayvon Martin verdict, with other references

 http://young.anabaptistradicals.org/2013/07/21/groanings-too-deep-for-words-the-zimmerman-verdict-and-the-dividing-wall-between-us/

Sunday, June 16, 2013

For Dad for 2013

So, um RantDad decamped to other concert halls roughly two decades ago. But June means Fathers' Day and RantWoman's data streams have been blessed with gifts worthy of RantDad.

Bobby McFerin and audience: the audience does Gunod's Ave Maria, except maybe the Jewish ones who get Bobby's permission to do the Oy-ve  Maria while Bobby does the first Bach prelude

http://youtu.be/PgvJg7D6Qck
RantDad loved nearly all things Bach. RantWoman loves a reference she read not long ago to Bach as Protestant mysticism.  That alone is enough, and the music too doesn't hurt.



Bobby McFerrin, Yo-yo Ma and others do Hush Little Baby with Japanese subtitles. Very Guy. Very Beautiful
http://youtu.be/GczSTQ2nv94


Patrick Stewart on his Dad. RantDad never went to war; RantWoman means to admire Stewart's energy and passion on behalf of both his parents. RantWoman does NOT mean particularly to comment on matters between the RantParents, but does mean to hold all fathers in theLight, especially the difficult ones, whatever the reasons for the difficulty.
http://www.upworthy.com/a-brave-fan-asks-patrick-stewart-a-question-he-doesnt-usually-get-and-is-given-a-beautiful-answer




Sunday, May 12, 2013

Dancing our Beloved Dead; Beltane Belatedly

RantWoman thanks A Quaker Witch, for the perfect thing to do with beloved spirits bouncing around in RantWoman's psyche and presence over the last few weeks: let them dance.

Dancing with our beloved dead at Beltane
http://aquakerwitch.blogspot.com/2013/05/dancing-with-beloved-dead-at-beltane.html


Anyone who thinks RantWoman is just an insensitive pushy overpowering bitch about all this is invited to complain as loudly as he or she feels entitled. But first you must get in line and dance and dance for an hour or several. THEN, only then may you complain.

The state of the Meeting, one more time
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/05/beloved-dead-restated.html

Beloved dead, or not yet; war zones
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/05/beloved-dead-or-not-yet-from-war-zones.html


Beloved Dead, while recording
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/05/beloved-dead-about-recording-clerk.html

Beloved Dead, Belonging
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/05/our-beloved-dead-belonging.html

Beloved Dead: Doris
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/05/dances-with-our-beloved-doris.html



Dances with our Beloved, Doris

RantWoman


RantWoman again draws Friends' attention to dear Doris, a STALWART at Friends Committee of WA Public Policy Steering Committee meetings during Quarterly Meeting. This past time, Doris just beamed as she arrived. Seeing her made RantWoman SO happy there was much waving from the Recording Clerk.
Even more delightfully, RantWoman was assigned to room with Doris and her youngest sister Florence. RantWoman is feeling deprived because Little Sister's medical matters are more tiresome than average right now; RantWoman was touched just to soak up octagenarian sister vibe. The sisters giggled for 10 minutes when RantWoman confessed that if Little Sister were around, she and RantWoman might stay up all night giggling.

RantWoman is also holding tenderly reasons each shared with RantWoman that she worries about / frets over / just thinks the other sister is maybe a little batty. Please hold tenderly the thought from Facebook "Thank you for ordering the Crazy Cat Lady Starter Kit"  and the point that someone MIGHT not find that funny.

RantWoman did not really ask to have a roommate who needed to go to the hospital late on Saturday night; RantWoman is VERY grateful to lots of Friends who stepped in to handle different pieces. The stepping in is part of why Quarterly Meeting seemed so well held--in spite of....

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Invitation to Serenade Doris, who it turned out was not long for this world.
Why:
Because we love her
Because she loves us
Because music speaks to her heart
Because our hearts long to ease her journey
Because she cannot visit with all of us

What:
Gather and sing
songs from the Quaker song book
(extra copies will be there to share)
Sign the memory book
You may bring cards or poems to other items
to slip into the book if you like
Bring instruments if you are so inclined and can follow the music

When:
Date:   Friday, May 3, 2013
Time:  Singing will begin at ~ 6 pm.
(You can still make the Peace vigil at the old Federal Building from 4 
- 5
pm)

Where:
Outside Doris' home

How
CAR POOL and park a ways off -
please reserve parking near her home for handicap accessibility

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Finally, from Doris' daughter
Dear friends and family,
Please pass the word that Doris passed over, peacefully, around 11:20  p.m. on Friday, May 3, 2013. We tried to compose a "To:" list, hoping  that each of you who receive this, will know others who will want to
know, and pass the word.

This morning, she felt better than she had in days, and was sitting up  smiling, lots of energy around 9 a.m. But she was still extremely clear that she did not want to embark on any kind of hospitalization. She just
thought that because she was feeling so much better this morning, perhaps she had a few more days to say her good-byes. But she also expressed, many times, in the past several days, what a wonderful, full life she had had, and how she was ready to go.

One of the last experiences she was awake and alert for was a "serenade" by Friends and friends, who gathered in her backyard at 6 p.m. Friends hymnals were passed around, the window was open, and Doris's little cat Sunshine sat on the windowsill and looked -- a bit astonished! -- at the gathering. Mimi Freshley led the group with her guitar.

About thirty people began singing; as the minutes passed, more and more joined in, until there were nearly 50 people standing outside her window. As each person passed by the window, she could see their faces.
She smiled and waved.

The caregiver who was present with her in the room said she'd never seen anything like it,  in all her years as a caregiver.

I was so privileged to receive hugs and blessings on her behalf, afterwards, as well as flowers and cards. Later that night, when she became very sleepy, I read all the cards aloud to her. I think the love came through.

Later in the evening, I talked to her softly for about an hour, remembering good times, treasured moments, and then sang lullabies, as her breathing grew quieter and quieter. I knew immediately when she moved into the Light. "Go toward the Light, Mom," I said, as if she didn't know. "I love you." As if she didn't know.

You have all been blessings to me and to Doris, in her latest adventure. One thing I always honored about her was that she kept changing, kept growing, throughout her life. And now I see she still is.

In Love, Peace, and Joy,
Virginia

Our Beloved Dead, Belonging

RantWoman is still basking in her rich Worship sharing experience recently at Quarterly Meeting. The theme was belonging, and the opening plenary featured many Friends' reflection on whether they hold membership, where they hold membership, where they feel strongest sense of Quaker community. The topic probably needs its own blog entry, but RantWoman is stuck on her beloved dead theme.
One time membership matters is marrying; another is burying. People can get married in the manner of Friends even if neither partner is a member of a Meeting. If a couple wants their marriage taken under care of Meeting, at least one person must be a member of Meeting and there is a clearness process. And, and.

DIGRESSION ALERT
RantWoman would find it frighteningly easy here to digress to her continuing implacable twitchiness about her Meeting's State of the Society report as perpetrated during last month's Meeting for Business.
Marriage Equality? What's that you said?

Our Meeting has only been talking about and in various ways on record in support of marriage equality for a couple decades. Our Meeting and our Yearly Meeting have been on record specifically in support of full civil marriage rights for 15 years so it's KIND OF big news that WA voters approved Referendum 74, becoming the next of several states to enact marriage equality.
WHO CARES whether Friends from our Meeting did much in support of this campaign this year? WHO CARES what choices individual couples make as far as legal paperwork? One of RantWoman's twitches is just that RantWoman has heard one half of  the couple who wrote this year's State of Society report more or less assume that all is fine and easy in spite of, to RantWoman's ear, very many struggles still.
END OF DIGRESSION

Oh wait, not end of digression. RantWoman remembers a recent membership transfer for a weighty Friend whose name is attached to the digression at a Quarterly Meeting; RantWoman remembers the same Quarterly bumped against the memorial for a weighty Friend from RantWoman's Meeting. RantWoman remembers the departed as a bit of a blowhard, a nice blowhard, but... RantWoman also remembers that that Friend found RantWoman oh, a bit much. He has lots of company.

Burying works a little the same way: Meeting might or might not hold a memorial for an attender but definitely will not write a memorial minute, even if the attender has been a member of a community for decades. Burying a loved one can also be a time that draws someone to become a seeker among Friends. Finally, RantWoman notes that a community might involve many people grieving loved ones.  RantWoman has found herself clearly and repeatedly called to draw Friends' attention to thess poinst recently. Perhaps that is enough said about this flavor of RantWoman needing to be true to her Light and true to her experience.

But, back to Quarterly Meeting, and beloved dead who show up as RantWoman comes BACK from Quarterly Meeting. There is a time warp. as whatever vehicle RantWoman is riding in drives back into cellphone range after Quarterly Meeting.
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2011/05/shame-vulnerability-courage-fertilizer.html

Beloved dead, about the Recording clerk


RantWoman elders her Meeting's Recording Clerk, based on multiple RantWoman experiences, including RantWoman's heroic vexation of the Recording clerk during last Meeting for Business....add an exhortation: if something RantWoman says is not clear consider the options of either just letting God work on it or asking for clarification. RantWoman cannot read faces. RantWoman cannot read minds. If someone is upset or not understanding things a lot of the time someone has to use their words. Otherwise, as another blind person RantWoman is in a lot of meetings with says, RantWoman can offend you with impunity whether she means to or not.

No, RantWoman is NOT just taking up space for herself.  RantWoman  had occasion to think about a number of people in our community who she knows are grieving the loss of a loved one. RantWoman actually did not do this to start because she was overflowing with empathy. RantWoman did it because she made a list of people she needed to talk to and realized several of them were grieving. Then as RantWoman poked at various thoughts arising from that, she recognized that in fact there are even more people in our community who have lost loved ones over the past year. THEN RantWoman decided she should just say some prayers for awhile AND think about what space the topic might need in community conversation.

Okay, so you read on. How about a request to be held in the Light after the fact. The hold in the Light after the fact point is part of RantWoman's sometimes shit happens and the interpreter gets to keep on talking or the recording clerk gets to keep on recording thread.

RantWoman heard that people spoke last week of Doris Ferm of Bellingham who
passed away the Friday after Quarterly Meeting. Doris was a STALWART of
FCWPP Steering committee meetings and she just beamed when she got there this last time even though she was an hour late. RantWoman wound up rooming with her and her 80-year-old sister. That all
wound up being very sweet in a geriatric chaplain and passing of generations sense but that is another story.) But the real kicker came late in the meeting when people were talking about interest groups planned for the next day, one usual one about legislative matters and one about gun-related deaths. A couple people looked at death records for like 5 years and discovered that suicides outnumber homicides and all else by about 5 / 1 across the state. They planned to do an interest group about it and were chattering away chirpily.

One problem for RantWoman: a few years ago a friend of hers shot himself. He had MANY tough circumstances and barriers about getting help. He was able to buy the gun he used despite having been hospitalized multiple times the previous year for suicidal depression. Some of the time when gun suicides come up, RantWoman just thinks "better access to mental health care..."  Some of the time brain just leaves the room! RantWoman's brain was leaving the room at that point in the FCWPP meeting. Even worse, someone else in the room, RantWoman knew from listening around Meeting, might also be having a really rough time. RantWoman looked at that Friend at one point and had definitely guessed correctly, but the Friend was across the  table and saying anything would have been
awkward.

Luckily at that point RantWoman did not have to try VERY hard to focus enough for what was needed in the minutes.

And the Clerk is not sure about there being a God.

And RantWoman has a pretty versatile concept of God getting things done all kinds of ways, but it was only after the brain leaving the room moments repeated themselves the next day at the actual interest group that RantWoman managed to email the presenters with concern about sensitivity if people have stories the presenters say they are interested in. One of the presenters got the  point immediately; the other one RantWoman is not so sure.

Saturday, May 11, 2013

Beloved Dead or not yet; from war zones. Mothers' Day

Rantwoman notes the passing last year of Arthur Satherwaite of Pullman Moscow Monthly Meeting. Arthur is one of the last men who came to the northwest as conscientious objectors during World War II. At the most recent Quarterly Meeting,  RantWoman was presented an opportunity she lamely declined to read more of Arthur in smudgy newspaper clippings on a poster board. RantWoman also roomed with Arthur's widow Florence and her sister but that is another story.

RantWoman's witness about the Peace Testimony is considerably more heterodox than mere memorials for a conscientious objector. One time on a way to a meeting, RantWoman found herself riding with someone whose son is a diplomat. At the time he was serving in Iraq during Operation Iraqi Freedom. RantWoman was obliged to mumble something like "I am holding you both in the Light because your kid is in a war zone. It does not matter what I think of the war!"

Recently, during RantWoman's last spell of coffeemaking for after 11:00 worship, RantWoman had occasion to greet a young man who grew up in our Meeting. The young man now serves in the military. Some of the time he is a machine gunner. Some of the time he is a recruiter. RantWoman cannot decide which job role is more in need of prayer.

In closing worship at Quarterly Meeting RantWoman was given a message calling to mind Arthur and the young recruiter / machine gunner and the following further thoughts..

It is the age of poverty draft, excuse me all volunteer army. Women now serve in combat. Servicemembers can be openly gay.

--What in the way of peace witness is needed for Quakers of today?

--What are Friends' thoughts or leadings as far as questions of universal service?

--Is there any place in our Meetings or our Friends' organizations where youth can look while seasoning such questions?


Many thoughtful well-centered Friends may wish to stop here. Friends willing to digress slightly and bear with more of RantWoman's intemperate rantings are invited to read on:

RantWoman notes two comments not recorded in the official record of a threshing session about structure in January:

--Someone suggested abolishing Peace and Social Concerns committee and assigning all their work to Worship and Ministry. RantWoman, who STRIVES to do all sorts of witness from a well-grounded spiritual center thinks on one hand that is a brilliant idea. On the other hand, RantWoman thinks her Meeting's present Worship and Ministry committee should find that idea terrifying, that capacity to do this is not what first leaps to mind about Worship and Ministry committee, and that her Meeting can appreciate the gifts of Worship and Ministry WITHOUT expecting them to tiptoe a single hair beyond their Light, like for instance to offer spiritually centered guidance about conscientious objection.

 --Someone else afterward suggested abolishing Worship and Ministry. Can anyone guess who or why? RantWoman does NOT suppose their work would get assigned to Peace and Solcial Concerns. But what IS needed?

Does this question occur to anyone besides RantWoman?

Beloved Dead, Restated

The State of RantWoman's Meeting, once more with or without feeling: http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/04/as-stated_15.html

In particular the beloved dead, annotated
Rich Beyer, a widely enough known artist that Friends can use their search engines their own darn selves.
Bill Hansen
A whole welter of Beloved Dead when RantWoman went to look for a post about Rice Bucket Friend, including beloved dead from RantWoman's life as a teenage Baptist.
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/search?q=bucket&max-results=20&by-date=true

Fran Hain
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/01/because-god-asked-you-to-all-ministers.html
Fran had two husbands. RantWoman is not sure whether only one or both did things like smoke-jumping as conscienscientious objectors during World War II.




Monday, April 15, 2013

As stated?

Reviews in Business Meeting of the State of the Meeting report below, from those assembled: "Beautifully written" x about 5

Review from RantWoman: excellent, high-quality happy talk and twaddle. Not only is there barely any room for disability or difficulty or the next chapter of a long history, there is not even room for pain and challenge hanging silently on a clothesline. WHAT kind of wimpy divine presence are we talking about anyway?

The text after the authors and Business Meeting declined not only the extensive edits RantWoman previously proposed http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/04/the-meeting-as-stated.html but the two items she reiterated in Business Meeting, one about disabilities and difficulty, and one about marriage equality, imperfect as the WA measure is without federal changes.

State of the Meeting Report (April 2013)


University Friends Meeting


Our worship this year has been rich and balanced. Our meetinghouse hums with life: in addition to two First Day meetings for worship and midweek worship, our Social Hall is rented out most nights, a preschool thrives on our ground floor, and 20 homeless individuals find shelter in our worship room each night. At Quaker House, we welcome both travelers and six new social service Fellows each year through our QuEST program. This year we’ve had three new adult members, two new junior members, two transfers to other meetings, and three deaths of members: Rich Beyer, Bill Hanson, and Frances Hain. It has now been a few years since our Year of Discernment, a process many of us found to be quite enriching and strengthening, and this year we ask where the clarity we found that year might again serve as a way to reset our compass.

One question that weighs on us is how to respond to some members’ feelings that we are overcommitted or overstretched. With our numerous committees, care committees, two buildings to maintain, and a full roster of staff positions, some members wish for a greater lightness in our Society’s step. Are we attempting too much? Are our tasks and roles the right ones? Do we work in simplicity and Light? At a threshing session on this topic, a suggestion emerged that we might try a drastic winter pruning—cutting back on the number and size of our committees and endeavors, and from that cleared space, seeing what structural needs emerged. We wait to take action until we are clear we fully understand the challenges faced by staff, member/attender-volunteers, and staff support.

We have been quite clear in our commitment to properly welcoming and supporting our youngest attenders. To this end, in addition to our permanent preschool teacher, who is in her second year of working with our infants, toddlers, and preschoolers, we’ve hired two permanent First Day teachers, who provide regular programming for our elementary-aged children. (RantWoman is unsure of the precise wording re Junior Friends). A group of Junior Friends from our Meeting and South Seattle Friends Meeting meets the first week of each month.  We gather quarterly with young families at our meeting and South Seattle Friends Meeting, in order to grow our community and to share our experiences of raising children within the Quaker faith.


Our worship community includes survivors of sexual abuse as well as sexual offenders. We hold this balance carefully and with deliberate transparency. From this attention has grown a set of policies and practices geared towards the safety of our children.


At our fall community-building retreat, we considered how our worship nurtures our community. We are a large meeting, and there are many ways members and attenders find their home here: in play with our children, in connection to the homeless individuals sheltering with us who lead us to consider the plight of the homeless across our city, through the dozen individual care committees that allow us to focus our Light, through attention to the act of ministry in all its guises, by reaching out to the QuEST Fellows whose service work inspires us, enjoying each others’ company at Light Lunch, engaging in collective social action and political advocacy, tending to the native plants that surround our meeting house, and by greeting with open and attentive hearts the newcomers and old-timers with whom we meet for worship.


Sunday, March 31, 2013

Guatemala: threatened with resurrection

The Cut to the Chase version: please hold the trial of former Guatemalan military strongmand Efrain Rios Montt and a co-defendant in the Light. This is a domestic trial in Guatemala for crimes of genocide against indigenous communities and other crimes.


The fact that this trial is occurring in Guatemala in the context of the Guatemalan justice system is a remarkable moment of shining the light of justice on awful things from the nation's history.

Read on for specific links. RantWoman confesses: she reads as much now with her "Auntie" hat on as with anything like the ardor and insufferable passion of her youth. RantWoman is holding thoughts of what Brother in Law might be willing to go anywhere near in conversation and thoughts of what Irrepressible Nephew Really SHOULD Care About. RantWoman gets to hold the possibility that the biggest thing either of them might care about would be a desire perhaps to travel to Guate to see Irrepressible Nephew's Guatemalan abuela while she is still alive to see.

Of possibly less importance would be Rant family gratitude that the gods of holiday eating rituals have already smiled in such a way that Christ will be risen and Easter gets celebrated this year in family fractions. One fraction retires at home recovering from ongoing radiation therapy. One fraction is still open to Divine Leading. One fraction will happen with some important local Guatemalan connections and without the opportunity for RantWoman to cause conversational distress speaking of disturbing things: the new Pope and the Argentinian Dirty War as well as the Rios Montt trial. RantWoman is pretty sure RantMom's reaction to either theme would be "Oh RantWoman, must you?" or perhaps "Oh RantWoman, would you please translate....Oh, Must you?"

RantWoman spent a good portion of the 1980's walking around wearing buttons emblazoned with such moments of truthtelling as "Your taxes pay for torture, rape and murder in Central America." RantWoman is STILL just a walking,talking living breathing yucky topics festival. RantWoman recently vexed someone she thought might be able to be present in the conversation with a question about the trial of former Guatemalan military leader Efrain Rios Montt. RantWoman was blessed basically by an exhortation to figure it out her own darn self.



Here are some links from the world wide infoglut to get started.
http://www.as-coa.org/articles/rios-montt-case-guatemalas-landmark-genocide-trial-begins
http://www.aljazeera.com/indepth/opinion/2013/03/2013323164622824769.html


http://www.csmonitor.com/World/Americas/Latin-America-Monitor/2013/0322/Checking-in-on-Guatemala-s-Rios-Montt-trial


If the news is too much, perhaps Julia Esquivel's poem "They have threatened us iwith resurrection" will suffice.



First in English
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2012/04/they-have-threatened-us-with.html

and in Spanish
http://bilgrimage.blogspot.com/2010/04/for-national-poetry-month-julia.html