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Showing posts with label Quarterly Meeting. Show all posts
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Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Christmas presents: minutes AND email.

RantWoman has discovered that her email drafts folder is a little like the closet where one stores Christmas presents one has accumulated over a good spell before the holiday. Here are two such presents, one about minutes and one about email. Readers are invited to note that RantWoman is holding them in the Light as they read.

RantWoman of late has been called, repeatedly to concerns about minutes, specifically the difference between recording decisions and recording minutes of exercise hopefully reflecting the range of comments about some or another issue.

RantWoman is aware that, at least in others' estimation, she is probably overachieving on numerous not preferable dimensions. RantWoman suggests that readers who venture further and find themselves perplexed either trust their Light or feel free to inquire of RantWoman what the heck she is talking about.

With minutes of decision, precision and clarity are greatly to be desired. With minutes of exercise, RantWoman feels called to point out that part of the POINT of the exercise is like tilling a garden with different plants able to make different things of the available material.

RantWoman is holding several minutes of exercise situations for additional discernment. RantWoman takes exception to what has gotten recorded in all of them. RantWoman is clear repeatedly to speak specifically because of a sense of community going astray from Truth if she does not. Hold RantWoman--and community--in the Light.

First, the tilling the garden thoughts came from a conversation involving lots of references to pruning, dislike of thinkings that seem like voting or that seem argumentative or repetitive. RantWoman wanted to speak more of tuning, of pulling different voices into the right chord and harmonies for the situation.

Not to be argumentative, but how are Friends supposed to discern sense of the room if some threads do not get woven into a succession of offerings?
RantWoman also particularly points out that Friends sometimes need to hold thoughts of "helpful" on different timeline. RantWoman sent argumentative email to one of the people behind the "don't be argumentative" votes. RantWoman has acquired some experience working with disaster preparedness topics for very diverse audiences. RantWoman pointed out that certain behaviors which are actually already darned annoying when everyone is warm and dry and the lights are on might be peculiarly helpful in making those assembled think of resources needed for more extreme circumstances. If RantWoman thinks about this thread a few steps further, she suspects a topical query might be what spiritual resources are needed in worlds of White People Adjustment / What really needs to evolve to whip this Climate Change thing conferences?

Not to be argumentative, but RantWoman has been holding the following thoughts:  "Trust the committee" vs test the committee; bring it to the group and let go. When RantWoman drafted this she had in mind 3 situations where what the Business Meeting did with the work of the committee was very different from what the committee did. In the interest of conciseness if RantWoman recalls these situations in form sufficient for blogging, RantWoman promises to examine them in their own entry.


The second challenge on RantWoman's mind is the use of email for Quaker Business. RantWoman is not prepared to lay down her clerkship of the Association of Bad Friends Still Didn't Get the Memo Committee on Email Immoderation; this can be one problem. The other problem is that every time RantWoman picks up the question of email, it turns all squishy in her hands.

RantWoman adores email BECAUSE it is a record of what was said. RantWoman deeply appreciates being able to use a search bar and find things without having to skim her own impossible handwriting. RantWoman also has personal experience with people who say they dislike email, have work history reasons for being leery of email, but also maybe have a hearing loss and, it turns out, actually do much better by email.

In this vein, RantWoman was thrilled by a Quarterly Meeting plenary a couple Quarterly Meetings ago involving a restorative circle exercise exactly about the pros and cons of email. RantWoman only wishes everyone in her life for whom email is a vexed question had been at the Quarterly Meeting.
For example RantWoman attended a Clerking workshop with Weighty Friends who Teach Clerking. One of the items handed out as if it were holy writ without invitation to discuss was a statement on email seasoned by Milwaukee and Claremont Friends, Friends of a generation who dislike email. 

After the clerking workshop, RantWoman banged out a series of emails to the effect, among other things, that perhaps Friends who cannot imagine God showing up by email may in fact be writing whole generations out of their concept of the divine. RantWoman is grateful that her offerings were well-received in the abstract; applications in practice around RantWoman continue to evolve.


Friends

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Awash. Living Water

RantWoman has been awash in the Living Water.


Living Water round 1: OR Coast, Newport OR. A timeshare right on the water.

Part A: RAIN SQUALLS. Exuberant racket from seagulls sea lions, seals slurping up waste from a nearby fish processing plant. Memorial benches along the boardwalk commemorating sailors lost at sea. Some years there were people listed from multiple vessels. Probably stormy years.

Part B. Deepoe Bay. Waves crashing against walls of waterworn igneous formations, leaving tidal pools behind as the waves return to the sea. A view of Boiler Bay. Not called that because the water looks like it's in a boiler, though it does. Boiler Bay because a ship called the Boiler sank there.

Part C: No Tsunami Option vacation with #disasterprep included:

http://rantwoman.blogspot.com/2013/09/the-no-tsunami-option.html
RantWoman tried to walk up the tsunami evacuation hill. It would be a tough haul for RantWoman, never mind about RantMom. Go walk the boardwalk and listen to sea lions barking. They are loud and smelly and close, an improvement over an excursion possibility: cold and dark and smelly after an overpriced elevator trip down to some sea lion caves. Anyway, bank on the "no tsunami" option.

What means "we seek an earth restored" here?

Living Water, Round 2: 500-year floods down mountain valleys in CO. 22" of rain in a day or two; more water than usually falls for a whole year. Lots of roads along mountain valleys just GONE. RantWoman is peculiarly fascinated when Acts of God make human efforts crumble. The good news is RantBrother kadeit through a couple days of work doing flood cleanup before his body rebelled. Now he is back to looking after his own fashion for other work. The rest of family are poking at psychic cleanup options after his last visit.

Living Water: Quarterly Meeting.
Call down the fire of your justice; Call down the rain of your love. Ummm, wildfires burning miles to the south at the beginning of the month are by now a non-event. We still need rain, even in Friday traffic out of town or over the pass.

Plenary Bible Passage about a Samaritan woman and a Jew sharing water at the well. A big deal that they are drinking together even though the woman misses out on the Living Water because she does not know who Jesus is. Interesting approach to brand appreciation.
Plenary Promo: Friendly Water
http://www.friendlywaterfortheworld.com/
If RantWoman were going to go all intercultural on the #disasterprep efforts, she MIGHT want something like this in her home disaster resources.

Worship Sharing queries include no floods or tears; messages came about both, with riffs on brothers / parenting / loss / living / growing / mourning / hoping.

Sunday, September 29, 2013

Hallowed Time. The Bus COUNTS

Reflections on hallowed time, prayer, worship, the bus.


RantWoman's mind is in a time warp. RantWoman's body is reluctantly back from vacation and Quarterly Meeting. RantWoman's brain most assuredly is still dawdling. Here: MODEST efforts to corral RantWoman's reflections on recent reading.

About making every moment holy and not apologizing when psychic "junk food" turns out more nourishing than one initially assumes.
http://quakerpagan.blogspot.com/2013/09/whats-twenty-minutes.html

About spending 10,000 hours to get good at something and in passing about Saturday plenary at NPYM annual session.
http://generousgrasp.wordpress.com/2013/09/22/ten-thousand-hours/#more-503



Digression alert? Prayer experiments
http://worshipsharinginprint.wordpress.com/2013/09/28/prayer-experiments/



Does the bus count? At the moment, all roads, courses of Living Water, nearly hidden tracks in the woods, ALL Routes lead to the Bus!

http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2010/04/time-to-pray.html

http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2010/08/bus-eldering-123.html


Really? How about hold RantWoman and all those in the path of her emanations in the Light?

Thursday, August 29, 2013

Quarterly Meeting: Zawadi Nikuze Bulletin Announcement Revised

RantWoman enthusiastically urges Friends writing bulletin announcements to be more descriptive of the content than the version RantWoman was called to edit to get to an extract of comments below. Word!

Let the Living Water Flow with Zawadi Nikuze of the Africa Great Lakes Peace Initiative, http://www.aglifpt.org/index.htm

http://www.aglifpt.org/publications/peaceways/fall2009/congofall2009.htm

Pacific Northwest Quarterly Meeting September 27-29, 2013 The registration packet for the upcoming Fall 2013 session of Pacific Northwest Quarterly Meeting is available for downloading from our website, pnqm.org. The main registration deadline, after which a late registration fee of $25 per form will be charged, is September 11th. We still have a "pay what you can" policy, encouraging those who can afford more to pay more than the suggested amount so that those with more limited resources can pay less as needed.

Our suggested fees also provide extra subsidy to encourage attendance by families with children and to encourage camping so that we don't need to assign too many Friends to upper bunks in the buildings.


RantWoman tips and quibbles:
RantWoman enthusiastically encourages Friends to register in faith. RantWoman is also blessed with a possible overabundance of quibbles.

RantWoman frequently finds helpful information on the Lazy F camp website, our venue http://www.lazyfcamp.org/

RantWoman has multiple times with the same technology on her desk run into some website accessibility issue; RantWoman cautiously recalls having better results with a different screen reader version elsewhere. RantWoman still considers her own challenges a problem: RantWoman tends to lose patience quickly with websites she only infrequently needs to interact. RantWoman KNOWS this means she has in the past missed important info down a couple screens on the Lazy F website.

Pacific NW Quarterly Meeting has worked with Lazy F for years. Camp staff work hard to meet our needs but we are all ministers of God as far as helping connect Friends to other Friends who can help with challenges. Sometimes this might be a Lazy F staffperson or the Registrar. Sometimes this might be M&O. Sometimes this might be just someone to listen.

RantWoman goes about in perpetual accessibility monitor mode. RantWoman recognizes that this may make RantWoman appear tiresome to others. Guess what! If that is the ONLY reason RantWoman is tiresome, it's probably a good day. Let us all hold each other in the Light on that score.


RantWoman's accessibility cop points in addition to the website issue above:
--The camp is in several buildings. Some of the buildings have stairs at entries. Some of them are quite wheelchair accessible. The dining hall has gently graded paths to take on to the doors upstairs and downstairs. Friends' milage will vary as far as ease of getting to and from different buildings. RantWOman is always grateful for the presence of everyone who gathers.

GENERAL LODGING ISSUES
The Quarterly Meeting registrar is the soul of discretion and care for people's needs. If you need to bring a service dog or have allergies and need to avoid animals, mold.... be clear about your needs as soon as possible.

RantWoman occasionally tries to work up enthusiasm for camping but RantWoman neither owns necessary equipment nor knows anyone whose tent she wants to invite herself into.

RantWoman DOES know how to take mattressess off top bunks and sleep on the floor and has found this entirely workable at times.


WILD FIRE ISSUES
RantWoman remembers many Friends getting smoked out before Quarterly Meeting by nearby wildfires. RantWoman attended anyway and did not find the smoke any more of a challenge than an occasional really cold day with everyone in her neighborhood firing up woodstoves; still RantWoman is trying not to minimize the difficulty of Friends with different breathing issues. RantWoman remembers seeing notes on the Lazy F website about fire and smoke issues as the date of Quarterly Meeting approached.

This year RantWoman by accident has been following media accounts of a wildfire on the Manashtash Ridge miles to the south and west of Lazy F camp.

Manashtash Ridge Fire in the search engine of your choice will provide updates. Per today's Yakima Herald the fire is in a remote area far from Lazy F in a remote are with considerable unburned fuel. The fire is not contained and is being fought indirectly. RantWoman HOPES that fire and smoke issues are well under control by the time we are all to gather.

Monday, August 19, 2013

Pacific NW Quarterly Meeting: Let the Living Water Flow Zawadi Nikuze. Sept. 27-29

We dedicate ourselves to let the living water flow where we live regionally and in a wider world fellowship.We dedicate ourselves to building the peace that passeth understanding, to repair of the world, opening our eyes to the Light in each small step.

Lazy F Camp, Ellensburg WA
September  27-29
For registration details see http://www.pnqm.org/

Early Registration Deadline August 28.


We

Sunday, May 12, 2013

Dancing our Beloved Dead; Beltane Belatedly

RantWoman thanks A Quaker Witch, for the perfect thing to do with beloved spirits bouncing around in RantWoman's psyche and presence over the last few weeks: let them dance.

Dancing with our beloved dead at Beltane
http://aquakerwitch.blogspot.com/2013/05/dancing-with-beloved-dead-at-beltane.html


Anyone who thinks RantWoman is just an insensitive pushy overpowering bitch about all this is invited to complain as loudly as he or she feels entitled. But first you must get in line and dance and dance for an hour or several. THEN, only then may you complain.

The state of the Meeting, one more time
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/05/beloved-dead-restated.html

Beloved dead, or not yet; war zones
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/05/beloved-dead-or-not-yet-from-war-zones.html


Beloved Dead, while recording
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/05/beloved-dead-about-recording-clerk.html

Beloved Dead, Belonging
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/05/our-beloved-dead-belonging.html

Beloved Dead: Doris
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2013/05/dances-with-our-beloved-doris.html



Our Beloved Dead, Belonging

RantWoman is still basking in her rich Worship sharing experience recently at Quarterly Meeting. The theme was belonging, and the opening plenary featured many Friends' reflection on whether they hold membership, where they hold membership, where they feel strongest sense of Quaker community. The topic probably needs its own blog entry, but RantWoman is stuck on her beloved dead theme.
One time membership matters is marrying; another is burying. People can get married in the manner of Friends even if neither partner is a member of a Meeting. If a couple wants their marriage taken under care of Meeting, at least one person must be a member of Meeting and there is a clearness process. And, and.

DIGRESSION ALERT
RantWoman would find it frighteningly easy here to digress to her continuing implacable twitchiness about her Meeting's State of the Society report as perpetrated during last month's Meeting for Business.
Marriage Equality? What's that you said?

Our Meeting has only been talking about and in various ways on record in support of marriage equality for a couple decades. Our Meeting and our Yearly Meeting have been on record specifically in support of full civil marriage rights for 15 years so it's KIND OF big news that WA voters approved Referendum 74, becoming the next of several states to enact marriage equality.
WHO CARES whether Friends from our Meeting did much in support of this campaign this year? WHO CARES what choices individual couples make as far as legal paperwork? One of RantWoman's twitches is just that RantWoman has heard one half of  the couple who wrote this year's State of Society report more or less assume that all is fine and easy in spite of, to RantWoman's ear, very many struggles still.
END OF DIGRESSION

Oh wait, not end of digression. RantWoman remembers a recent membership transfer for a weighty Friend whose name is attached to the digression at a Quarterly Meeting; RantWoman remembers the same Quarterly bumped against the memorial for a weighty Friend from RantWoman's Meeting. RantWoman remembers the departed as a bit of a blowhard, a nice blowhard, but... RantWoman also remembers that that Friend found RantWoman oh, a bit much. He has lots of company.

Burying works a little the same way: Meeting might or might not hold a memorial for an attender but definitely will not write a memorial minute, even if the attender has been a member of a community for decades. Burying a loved one can also be a time that draws someone to become a seeker among Friends. Finally, RantWoman notes that a community might involve many people grieving loved ones.  RantWoman has found herself clearly and repeatedly called to draw Friends' attention to thess poinst recently. Perhaps that is enough said about this flavor of RantWoman needing to be true to her Light and true to her experience.

But, back to Quarterly Meeting, and beloved dead who show up as RantWoman comes BACK from Quarterly Meeting. There is a time warp. as whatever vehicle RantWoman is riding in drives back into cellphone range after Quarterly Meeting.
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2011/05/shame-vulnerability-courage-fertilizer.html

Beloved dead, about the Recording clerk


RantWoman elders her Meeting's Recording Clerk, based on multiple RantWoman experiences, including RantWoman's heroic vexation of the Recording clerk during last Meeting for Business....add an exhortation: if something RantWoman says is not clear consider the options of either just letting God work on it or asking for clarification. RantWoman cannot read faces. RantWoman cannot read minds. If someone is upset or not understanding things a lot of the time someone has to use their words. Otherwise, as another blind person RantWoman is in a lot of meetings with says, RantWoman can offend you with impunity whether she means to or not.

No, RantWoman is NOT just taking up space for herself.  RantWoman  had occasion to think about a number of people in our community who she knows are grieving the loss of a loved one. RantWoman actually did not do this to start because she was overflowing with empathy. RantWoman did it because she made a list of people she needed to talk to and realized several of them were grieving. Then as RantWoman poked at various thoughts arising from that, she recognized that in fact there are even more people in our community who have lost loved ones over the past year. THEN RantWoman decided she should just say some prayers for awhile AND think about what space the topic might need in community conversation.

Okay, so you read on. How about a request to be held in the Light after the fact. The hold in the Light after the fact point is part of RantWoman's sometimes shit happens and the interpreter gets to keep on talking or the recording clerk gets to keep on recording thread.

RantWoman heard that people spoke last week of Doris Ferm of Bellingham who
passed away the Friday after Quarterly Meeting. Doris was a STALWART of
FCWPP Steering committee meetings and she just beamed when she got there this last time even though she was an hour late. RantWoman wound up rooming with her and her 80-year-old sister. That all
wound up being very sweet in a geriatric chaplain and passing of generations sense but that is another story.) But the real kicker came late in the meeting when people were talking about interest groups planned for the next day, one usual one about legislative matters and one about gun-related deaths. A couple people looked at death records for like 5 years and discovered that suicides outnumber homicides and all else by about 5 / 1 across the state. They planned to do an interest group about it and were chattering away chirpily.

One problem for RantWoman: a few years ago a friend of hers shot himself. He had MANY tough circumstances and barriers about getting help. He was able to buy the gun he used despite having been hospitalized multiple times the previous year for suicidal depression. Some of the time when gun suicides come up, RantWoman just thinks "better access to mental health care..."  Some of the time brain just leaves the room! RantWoman's brain was leaving the room at that point in the FCWPP meeting. Even worse, someone else in the room, RantWoman knew from listening around Meeting, might also be having a really rough time. RantWoman looked at that Friend at one point and had definitely guessed correctly, but the Friend was across the  table and saying anything would have been
awkward.

Luckily at that point RantWoman did not have to try VERY hard to focus enough for what was needed in the minutes.

And the Clerk is not sure about there being a God.

And RantWoman has a pretty versatile concept of God getting things done all kinds of ways, but it was only after the brain leaving the room moments repeated themselves the next day at the actual interest group that RantWoman managed to email the presenters with concern about sensitivity if people have stories the presenters say they are interested in. One of the presenters got the  point immediately; the other one RantWoman is not so sure.

Saturday, May 11, 2013

Beloved Dead or not yet; from war zones. Mothers' Day

Rantwoman notes the passing last year of Arthur Satherwaite of Pullman Moscow Monthly Meeting. Arthur is one of the last men who came to the northwest as conscientious objectors during World War II. At the most recent Quarterly Meeting,  RantWoman was presented an opportunity she lamely declined to read more of Arthur in smudgy newspaper clippings on a poster board. RantWoman also roomed with Arthur's widow Florence and her sister but that is another story.

RantWoman's witness about the Peace Testimony is considerably more heterodox than mere memorials for a conscientious objector. One time on a way to a meeting, RantWoman found herself riding with someone whose son is a diplomat. At the time he was serving in Iraq during Operation Iraqi Freedom. RantWoman was obliged to mumble something like "I am holding you both in the Light because your kid is in a war zone. It does not matter what I think of the war!"

Recently, during RantWoman's last spell of coffeemaking for after 11:00 worship, RantWoman had occasion to greet a young man who grew up in our Meeting. The young man now serves in the military. Some of the time he is a machine gunner. Some of the time he is a recruiter. RantWoman cannot decide which job role is more in need of prayer.

In closing worship at Quarterly Meeting RantWoman was given a message calling to mind Arthur and the young recruiter / machine gunner and the following further thoughts..

It is the age of poverty draft, excuse me all volunteer army. Women now serve in combat. Servicemembers can be openly gay.

--What in the way of peace witness is needed for Quakers of today?

--What are Friends' thoughts or leadings as far as questions of universal service?

--Is there any place in our Meetings or our Friends' organizations where youth can look while seasoning such questions?


Many thoughtful well-centered Friends may wish to stop here. Friends willing to digress slightly and bear with more of RantWoman's intemperate rantings are invited to read on:

RantWoman notes two comments not recorded in the official record of a threshing session about structure in January:

--Someone suggested abolishing Peace and Social Concerns committee and assigning all their work to Worship and Ministry. RantWoman, who STRIVES to do all sorts of witness from a well-grounded spiritual center thinks on one hand that is a brilliant idea. On the other hand, RantWoman thinks her Meeting's present Worship and Ministry committee should find that idea terrifying, that capacity to do this is not what first leaps to mind about Worship and Ministry committee, and that her Meeting can appreciate the gifts of Worship and Ministry WITHOUT expecting them to tiptoe a single hair beyond their Light, like for instance to offer spiritually centered guidance about conscientious objection.

 --Someone else afterward suggested abolishing Worship and Ministry. Can anyone guess who or why? RantWoman does NOT suppose their work would get assigned to Peace and Solcial Concerns. But what IS needed?

Does this question occur to anyone besides RantWoman?

Monday, January 21, 2013

Quaker Lobby Day




Quaker Lobby Day (Fifth Annual!)

Monday, February 18, 2013 (Presidents’ Day), 9:00-3:00

Olympia Friends Meeting House


Friends have been a leading voice for justice for several centuries. Our voice is critically important to many marginalized citizens of our state - including tens of thousands of state residents who suffer economic hardship - and the thousands of men and women behind bars who cannot speak effectively for themselves.

Friends Committee on Washington Public Policy invites you to participate in our fifth annual Quaker Lobby Day on Monday, Presidents’ Day 2013, February 18th.

The day will begin at 9 am at the Olympia Friends Meetinghouse, 3201 Boston Harbor Road, Olympia WA 98506 where we will discuss our key legislative priorities (taken from the areas of criminal justice, economic justice, and local responses to global challenges) before we go to the Capitol Building by noon to talk with our individual legislators about these issues.

If you've never lobbied before, you are not alone!  Perhaps you're hesitant about lobbying because you're unfamiliar with the issues.  If so, Quaker Lobby Day is the place to learn.  And registrants from the same legislative district will have the opportunity to visit legislators as a delegation with appointments made with the legislators for that district.

Please join us!  To register, send your:

   Name                                                                       

   Email                                                                            Legislative District (if known)                        

   Postal address                                                                                                                                              

with Lobby Day in the subject line to the Registrar, Rick Ells, at ells.rick@gmail.com (or 206-782-5509, 9209 Phinney Ave. N., Seattle, WA 98103).  We'll send a confirmation … and later a schedule, updates on the issues, and directions to the Olympia Friends Meetinghouse – and set up appointments with your local legislators. 

For more information about FCWPP activities, see our website at www.fcwpp.org.

Working together, we can do amazing things!

Friday, September 28, 2012

Not Smoked, especially younger kids

Dear Friends,
Here is RantWoman's take on cancelling / not cancelling the fall 2012 session of Pacific NW Quarterly Meeting. The blog entry below began life as an email to Friends in key roles about planning Quarterly Meeting. The venue where Quarterly Meeting occurs is in the middle of wildfire country. There are no actual fires for  miles and miles in any direction, but there is smoke. Conditions are very dry and at one point the weather forecast mentioned a chance of lightning.

Various elements of the ultimate decisionmaking process got anonymized because RantWoman's non-Quaker blog is read by some of her disaster preparedness groupies; other elements got added or expanded.
http://rantwoman.blogspot.com/2012/09/smoked.html

Then Wednesday, Friend Newly in Responsible Role texted RantWoman to see whether RantWoman wanted a ride to midweek Meeting for Worship. Friend Newly In... lives very near RantWoman and RantWoman has ridden several places with Friend Newly in Responsible Role. RantWoman deeply appreciates the ministry of car ride conversations.

Friend Newly in Responsible Role is a mom. She reported that she personally is even less in tune with news streams than RantWoman but that she had been concerned for a few days. RantWoman is aware of another mom whose suggestions about cancelling had not quite been heard over the week's emails before Quarterly Meeting. RantWoman said a few words of vague invitation and  Friend Newly  in Responsible Role immediately offered to share her thinking.
As a mom, she realized she was going to want either to leave son at home or to explain to him why they were travelling to a dangerous area. And besides a bunch of adults she loves including RantWoman and two other specific adult Friends with health problems should not go there either. At this point RantWoman bristled: RantWoman and the two other Friends named are adults able to make our own decisions, good or bad. We all chose to go and did not regret it. RantWoman did not say in the moment but thought about later RantMom's past as a farm girl. in some circumstances, the RantParents would have said, we KNOW it's dangerous so you WILL modify your behavior as follows. But RantMom is not the mom in charge here;
Friend Newly in Responsible role was clear that it was her responsibility to put her foot down. She also reported that afterward multiple parents thanked her for articulating what they were thinking but hesitating to speak about.

RantWoman

1. Is grateful to have gone to her scheduled meetings, including the shortest plenary Business Meeting she has ever seen.

2. Wonders whether recommendations to cancel could have come together 
by Wednesday instead of the middle of Friday afternoon.

3. Recognizes that apparently the smoke from all the distant fires was getting worse on Friday than previously.

4. Is holding our venue and the people connected with the planning in the Light as Friends think more about this.

5. Does not regret attending herself even though she came home with nostrils and hair and head full of smoke.
RantWoman requests that Friends hold us all in the Light, especially people who live full time in the zones most affected by wildfires.

Saturday, April 21, 2012

Quarterly Meeting Interest Group: Marriage Equality Initiatives

Marriage Equality Initiatives:
How are Friends Led?

North Pacific Yearly Meeting has long supported marriage equality for same-sex couples. In 2012 the WA State legislature passed and Governor Gregoire signed marriage equality legislation. Signatures are being gathered now for an initiative to overturn this legislation. The initiative likely will be on the ballot in November 2012.

Are Friends led to participate in campaigns to oppose this initiative?

What support would Friends with such leadings like?

Is there anything the Friends Committee for WA Public Policy, our faith-based lobby group, might do to participate in campaigns to uphold marriage equality or to support individual Friends with strong leadings about this topic?


Above is the description for an interest group I will lead at our upcoming quarterly meeting. I hope the interest group will offer Friends of all orientations who feel strongly that marriage equality is important a place to connect and discern together about upcoming campaigns.

In the Seattle area even the Catholic church is discouraging people from gathering signatures at morning worship. Campaigns locally in support of marriage equality are likely to be big and well-funded. However, opposition is likely to come from part of the faith community, particularly a number of large megachurches and some ethnic congregations of various sizes. How might Friends speak as people of faith to others’ different faith perspectives?

Perhaps much of the campaigns for and against will go on via talk radio and social media. Friends willing to pay attention in those "spaces" might make a difference wherever they are. How are Friends led?

Possible actions:

• Moral support for each other, especially if Friends from a small community are led to work on the issue among their neighbors / in their community.

• Posting on our website our longstanding position and links to organizations that are working on the initiative along with a summary of FCWPP discernment.

• Interest Groups at Annual Session and Fall Quarterly Meeting

• ????

How are Friends led? If you are interested in this topic but cannot come to Quarterly Meeting, please leave a comment to ask for more information.

Sunday, October 9, 2011

Car ride clearness Committee with Corn Chips and Fresh Caffeine from Cle Elum

For the record, RantWoman has a Clearness Committee. RantWoman would say her clearness committee is functioning tolerably well. We meet at erratic intervals. We check in and hold changes in each other's lives. Questions get asked. Sometimes answers emerge. Sometimes we just sit with matters in silence. Sometimes RantWoman goes home. Sludge rattles loose in RantWoman's head on the bus ride home or while schlepping about the next day. Sometimes new Light comes. Sometimes RantWoman realizes one or another party has completely missed the point. Sometimes, it becomes clear that something else entirely is needed.

This is a longwinded way of saying RantWoman's current clearness committee is in no way responsible for anything causing consternation in RantWoman's current leading to oblige key individuals in her Meeting to observe National Disabilities Awareness Month. For one thing, RantWoman's entire observance is timed partly as a protest of Quaker Time. If RantWoman waited around to ask her Clearness Committee, this month might get observed sometime in the next millenium, probably after Ambassador Thwack the Badly Behaved White Cane becomes a Friend by convincement.

Coming back from Quarterly Meeting, RantWoman and her car ride companions stopped in Cle Elum for a round of caffeine, lattes all around. We left before lunch to help one of us get to work on time figuring we would munch on the giant bag of corn chips in the car. RantWoman's car ride companions had been listening to RantWoman's oblique grumbles while riding to and fro; they generously formed an ad-hoc clearness committee:

RantWoman, what do you want from your Meeting?

(RantWoman, thinking about how to translate the thought that abject groveling apology for various sins of omission and commission would be nice into acceptable Quakerese)

I really need reliable signals. Have I completely confused or offended you? USE YOUR WORDS because I darn sure cannot read your face. Okay, so lots of people have trouble even telling their right from their left when they try to give directions or orient RantWoman. How the heck can RantWoman necessarily expect Friends will automatically have the right words? Who said anything about RantWoman being reasonable?

There are some simple things that help a lot and that I want LOTS of people to know, but I do not always know instantly what the simple message I need to send is.

I really cannot identify things I CAN change or even apologize about if that is needed until way opens to figure out how to deal better with things I cannot change. So cope, because that's what I get to do too.

It's all trial and error and continuing revelation. If you are not up to that, it feels to me like you are not up to the workings of God. I am trying to leave that between you and God, but it feels like a rift, a disconnecting inconvenience and nuisance between us and I do not like that.

Perhaps that is enough to sit with, besides some blog bits:

http://gtitl.blogspot.com/2011/10/this-i-know-experimentally.html

the parable of the sower: some bear fruit, some fall on fallow ground, some lie about awhile before they germinate.

The ministry of Facebook and in-person contact. RantWoman was amused to learn from the editor of Western Friend that an item from a RantWoman letter to the editor of Western Friend turned up on Facebook, a zone where RantWoman really can only interact with teaspoonsful of the info torrents there. RantWoman guesses sometimes she gets to emit messages into the universe in faith regardless of whether RantWoman even learns of their fruit.

Monday, October 3, 2011

October 3 Disabilities Awareness Item Exchange.

Dear Friends

Today’s topic is hearing loss. Hearing loss probably deserves several
days. No promises.

At Quarterly Meeting John Helding talked a lot about “vibrant
meetings.” There were various aspects of “vibrant.” A couple had to do
with sound. At first all I could think of was our worship room walls
covered in carpet and a lot of members aging and struggling with
hearing loss, but the words moveable microphone also keep wandering
into mind, for numerous situations.

I am amused about the following checklist:
http://www.homeaudiologyservices.com/hearing-loss-checklist.aspx


My mother complains all the time that she wishes people would mumble less.
Talking to Mom on the phone is regularly an adventure in
miscommunication. Come to think of it, maybe I should ask her about an
amplified telephone….

She has had the volume of her television far too loud for me for
years. Fortunately, when I come to dinner she says endearing things
like “Turn off the television. You’re more fun than oil spills.”

Last time I went to dinner, I got to hear all about Mom’s recent trip
to Utah to see her 3 surviving siblings. One of the things they did
was to go visit the college my grandmother attended in Salt Lake city.
They got a tour and got to look at old yearbooks. My mom said she even
got to see a picture of my grandmother’s roommate for whom my mother
was given her middle name.

The other thing Mom said when I prompted her about a favorite uncle
who was just miserable a few years ago with hearing issues when
everyone came to Seattle: this uncle now has hearing aids in both ears
and life is MUCH better. From what most hearing aid users tell me,
much better likely includes increased volume, but increased clarity is
less to be expected.

A couple more items from the top page of Google results.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/hearing-loss/DS00172


http://www.asha.org/public/hearing/disorders/types.htm


http://www.hearingloss.org/


Amusing to see what DiversityInc serves up today, not particularly
about hearing loss
http://diversityinc.rsvp3.com/diversity-facts/disability-employment-awareness-month-facts-figures-2/


An obligatory RantWoman tells a little too much of the truth item:
http://rantwoman.blogspot.com/2009/03/why-rantwoman-is-one-who-needs-video.html


In the Light
(RantWoman)

PS.Reminder: Anyone who is displeased by the content, presentation,
length or any other attribute beyond mere existence of my daily
offerings is invited to cut ahead of me in line. If I receive an item
with disability-related content as opposed to grumbles about my
offerings, I am happy to take the day off.

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Disinterest

RantWoman's spiritual compost heap feels VERY well aerated after this weekends gathering for Pacific Northwest Quarterly Meeting. This is not because RantWoman's proposed interest group was received to grand acclaim.
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2011/09/interest.html

It was not even because RantWoman's interest group took place.

That's right. NO ONE signed up.

Okay, okay. RantWoman is not automatically distressed. For one thing, RantWoman would NOT necessarily mind in the least not needing to talk about much on her mind.


RantWoman was having Star Treklike distortions in the space time continuum as reflected in the clock on RantWoman's cellphone so RantWoman did not linger very long to wait for anyone to show up without signing up. One Friend made excuses about childcare but RantWoman would not have been ready to interact with children anyway. RantWoman was very glad to get to go to an interest group with John Helding about more of the weekend's theme.

But back to disinterest. RantWoman had no way of knowing about disinterest in advance so RantWoman prepared by UNapologetically inflicting more email on a large number of people who already find RantWoman the embodiment of email immoderation. Who says RantWoman knows when to quit? Here are RantWoman's inquiry and the results:



Subject: What do you want to know / would you come to an interest group about....
Hi Friends

This email is a request for input The bottom of this message is a description of an interest group I will lead at Quarterly Meeting, that is unless I find a way to get from Lazy F where I need to be on Friday night to Yakima for an interpreter training (on handling trauma issues, oddly enough) on Saturday 9/24. Chances are I will make the interest group and this is a request for input.

Awhile ago my clearness committee suggested I talk to children in our Meeting about life with vision loss. For a few different reasons I am clear that it would be better to start by talking to adults.

What would you most like to know about my experience?

What do you find bewildering about interacting with me?

What worries or observations do you have?

Is there someone else you wish I would ask

I DO NOT apologize for email. For one thing, you writing me back helps me keep track of things in a format I can search MUCH better than my notes in my ever scarier handwriting. I am happy to receive phone calls as well but another reason I like to start with email is that I am frequently awake later than many Friends and need to make effective use of my own time.

Also I am having to tell different people the same things over and over, including arguing various variations of "that could not possibly be a problem because we are so sincere, already spent so much time doing it wrong, think we understand based on..."

Some of the time this repetition is just exhausting. Some of the time I come away feeling drained the same way I feel drained when I have had to interpret for, say, a series of appointments with a trauma survivor and an attorney, the trauma survivor getting restimulate having to relive the story once to tell it, once when the attorney has mashed my interpretation into the kinds of sentences that legal entities understand or need to hear and I have to sight translate to check for corrections, and then the survivor has to repeat the story AGAIN in front of third parties of varying levels of awareness, hostility, eptitude / ineptness, responsiveness... Only now it's my story....

So I would like to get to clear messages much more widely understood and to get there as directly as possible.

Anyway, I mean it about wanting to hear Friends questions. I do not particularly promise to get to all of them in one interest group but I am happy to hold and work with them. Depending on interest, I am happy to consider doing a session at UFM either before or after the Interest Group at Quarterly Meeting.

Thank you for whatever observations you are led to offer.
RantWoman


Subject: Re: What do you want to know / would you come to an interest group about....
Dear RantWoman

If I were coming to your interest group, the thing that first occurs to me is talking about body language - in committee meetings, business meeting, even worship. I think this is a really hard thing for folks to get (and remember!). Your comment in Business Meeting yesterday about nodding as a way of showing approval was very helpful and appropriate. (Business Meeting had just approved something with everyone nodding but a question arose about whether the decision got recorded. RantWoman was uncertain and stood up without waiting to be recognized and had a short rant about bus drivers nodding and grunting and Quakers not even grunting. Giving examples would be great. Would you even consider a little role playing with most folks blindfolded?

I have found your comments about kids running around to be another very important and useful comment, since we don't think about it.

I hope you do get to give this interest group and look forward to hearing about it.
Sincerely,
Weighty Friend who has also previously earned a less respectful Nom de Blog.

Dear Weighty Friend…,

Thank you for your suggestions and observations. First a process point: THIS EMAIL DOES NOT REQUIRE IMMEDIATE RESPONSE. This came in as a reply/all to everyone on my original To: list. I am aware of others' grumbles about email AND I mean to take this partly as an invitation to tell a number of people the same things at the same time and to give you the option of clicking or not clicking on the individual blog posts. That way, if I grumble about how exhausting it is to have endless one on one conversations and if you want to talk amongst yourselves, you are at least all starting from common information.

Second, I do not particularly apologize for the length. In fact considering the freight train of matters frying my nerves this week, I hope you will appreciate my comparative restraint. On the other hand, if you want to unload some more cars....

--Body language? It's not exactly body language but everything to do with non-verbal communication. On one hand, I ask people to tell me when I offend them because I am pretty sure I achieve that more often than would be preferable and REALLY cannot read faces and am lost without verbal feedback.
The other aspect of not reading faces though is in a number of situations I have possibly misinterpreted another speaker (I need to talk to one person in particular) or I have felt like lots of people are inappropriately unresponsive to or show serious lack of awareness about something emotional where some kind of acknowledgment of difficulty or complexity would be entirely appropriate. The illustration I have used a couple times is a bit from I think Monty Python and the Holy Grail where everyone is seated at some kind of wedding and some knight shows up and starts hacking off hunks of people while the guests just keep doing whatever and do not even react. Ask me about exact situations in person or consider whether this perspective might shed light something you have experienced.

--At my proposed interest group I will do some of the things I do when I run other meetings as well as a couple additional things.

--Here are a couple blog posts about my experiences in meetings. Meeting for worship has a whole bunch of links below separately.with some links to follow
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2011/06/interrupt.html


meeting for memorial, but still
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2011/07/agnes-schmoe.html


--A miscellaneous item about running into people, my white cane and a certain much-discussed Friend's ministry of audible eye-rolling.
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2011/06/not-blind-that-we-know-of.html


--I do not think I want to consider role-playing at this event but given enthusiasm I hear, I will hold in future consideration for a number of reasons:
--blindfolds are only one form of representing different non-standard visual experiences. Here are a couple blog entries about my experience specifically:

http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2010/08/do-it-yourself-eye-surgery-and-plague.html


http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2010/12/worse-auntie-grow-your-own-lava-lamp.html


--I am nowhere near centered enough right now about a number of topics to lead a roleplay exercise. I will do well to stay centered enough to talk and do not want to think about ways of handing out alternate vision experiences.
A couple years ago, I was part of a presentation about disaster preparedness for people with disabilities.
http://rantwoman.blogspot.com/2009/04/super-duper-powerpoint-festival.html


http://rantwoman.blogspot.com/2009/04/taxed.html


http://rantwoman.blogspot.com/search?q=pantyhose


Before my presentation I got to go to a really great disability simulation exercise put on by someone at the Hearing Speech and Deafness Center. I am more inclined to find a forum where someone from outside can be invited to, say, UFM than to try it on my own.

I think I should stop here for now. If you have made it this far, thank you for reading. I am happy to talk in person or by phone—or not.

In the Light
RantWoman

(Dear RantWoman….two more votes for roleplays. RantWoman is not even sorry but she is for the moment unequivocally ON STRIKE about blindfold-themed tour guide service.)


Dear RantWoman,
I would love to know the spiritual path of how you are coping with your vision loss. What are the ways that you 'work around' your vision stuff.
Sometimes I get off on tangents when listening to you because sometimes you seem to be (my perception-not necessarily reality) off on tangents when talking.

Good way to go about the discussion!
Friend Peacemaker
"The only enemy is someone whose story you haven't heard."


Dear Friend Peacemaker

That's a nice question. Thank you for asking.

The rest of this is LONG so read it in chunks if that is easier. It does NOT require immediate response.

I have a whole blog, two really about things to do with the intersection between spritual and practical. I still have some really big THIS IS HOW I FEEL things in my drafts folder and right now I am really insistent about "please do not try to tell me how I do or do not feel." Feelings are feelings. What I do or do not do about them is another thing. But right now I am just trying to stay centered most of the time and ride through gaps between what I have figured out and what others around me have any clue about.

Here are some blog links
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2011/09/racism-and-privilege-workshop.html



http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2011/08/believe-and-be-healed.html


http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2011/07/healed-blessed-jesus.html


http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2010/05/path-to-spiritual-perfection.html


http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2010/06/allergic-to-joy-and-peace.html


Lots of people talk about tangents. Sometimes I am bored or trying to hold onto the right sized pieces and not overwhelm others with what is on my mind. That is not nice to the other half of a conversation, but I have to start where I am. The Overwhelmed point is NOT trivial: I can tell people get overwhelmed lots of different ways and I would not mind in the least not having all these overwhelming circumstances about my life. But sometimes I really mean it about this is my reality. I get to live it all the time. You all just get to visit. Here are some suggestions to help us cope!

Surveys say vision loss is the disability a lot of people fear the most. I have had bad eyes my whole life so I have a whole bunch of different issues but sometimes I have all I can do managing my own stuff and I just have to let other people deal with their overwhelmed feelings other ways. Sometimes I think people underestimate how much simple things matter.

Sometimes I think I try to wander away from topics that are hard or painful or where the first thing that comes to mind is formulated in ways that would not necessarily be the most helpful in a given conversation. Or when there are multiple ways to say something and I do not have energy for the most confrontational even if it is entirely true. But if I wander away in public, especially if something REALLY hurts I might actually NOT want to talk about it right then and there.

To be honest, sometimes I resent the hell out of the off-topic issue. During last year's nominations process EVERY TIME I tried to bring up something to do with dsability it got declared off topic. That is only one of several really clear reasons I would not just resign! Basically, EVERYONE almost has made some of the same mistakes over and over. I do not really expect perfection but there is ALL kinds of room for improvement.

Plus I get to get in people's faces about the same topics in multiple parts of my life so at least I get to be consistent. So we need to hold this subject in the Light for awhile and work on other stuff.

But THANK YOU again for asking.

In the Light.
RantWoman

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Grooming

RantWoman feels extremely gratified. RantWoman had one of her spells of serious “we are all ministers of God” regardless of committee or title. For her trouble RantWoman got THANKED by multiple people for helping another Friend get in the face of Friends in her own Meeting. To be fair, one of those who thanked RantWoman was also from the concerned Friend's Meeting and was glad finally to make connections and be able to act on concerns.

The exact circumstances are one of those child safety issues that would never be caught if one relies ONLY on industry standard on Planet Capitalism, that is organizations running childcare programs where there are always two adults, better yet two adults who have been through background checks. The problem in this case was not anyone involved in child care. A big part of the problem was just being able to talk of concerns, to be heard, and to determine what needed to happen NOW in order to prevent worse problems.

RantWoman is going to do the best she can to describe generalized circumstances without compromising confidentiality. The person who is the subject of this reflection does not have any formal connection to a childcare program. RantWoman has NO indication that anything about that person would show up on a background check. Yet last summer when RantWoman first heard of the concerns this person was creating, RantWoman recognized a number of issues immediately.

One concept at issue: grooming. Here are an assortment of web links to satisfy RantWoman's need for things accessible to her and hopefully things she can find again.

Wikipedia on the topic:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_grooming


Thank you Oprah
http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Child-Sexual-Abuse-6-Stages-of-Grooming


These two sources glance over the point that grooming behaviors extend to people and organizations around the target of the grooming person's interests, for example to religious congregations. The Friend with the concern reported evidence from others of this problem in the Friend’s Meeting: the Friend’s concerns were minimized in conversation because other Friends in that Meeting cited all the things the grooming person had done since starting to participate in the community.

The next topical concept: talking of the problem.
RantWoman was the second tier of a parent's efforts to talk of the problem after the parent tried talking to others in that parent's Meeting. The story did not all come out at once. It came out as narrative mixed in with other conversational topics over the time of a gathering. RantWoman helped the parent connect to the Ministry and Oversight committee at the gathering. RantWoman was able to do that partly because members of MInistry and Oversight were listed every day in the daily bulletin.

RantWoman feels a small pang though because it would have made sense for either RantWoman or the gathering’s Ministry and Oversight committee to try in short order to help the Friend have a conversation with others in that Friend's meeting about the concerns at issue. The idea of such a meeting did not form in anyone’s mind until it was too late to arrange it at that gathering. Resources were provided but that Friend had hesitations about following up. Separately conversations occurred between topical committees and the Friend's Meeting.

Along comes another gathering. RantWoman had been thinking for a few reasons that the problem was getting worked through appropriate channels but RantWoman had not really been checking up, that is until RantWoman and the parent with the concerns arrived again at a gathering. Reasons for concern were even clearer in conversation though the parent had been holding firm about rules. Unfortunately the parent had also been missing worship to avoid the problem and was unsure who specifically to contact in that Friend’s Meeting.

RantWoman checked her limited mental list of members of the gathering’s Ministry and Oversight committee who were present. One conversation with a committee member occurred. From what the parent shared with RantWoman, RantWoman is unclear whether the listening Friend missed the point or whether the concerned parent simply did not articulate some key point. Based on the parent’s account of the conversation with the listening Friend, RantWoman for once was given, instead of fog and freight trainloads of free association, some very specific words for the concerned parent to start with: “I need help talking to my Meeting about…”

RantWoman would have offered to accompany but had to be elsewhere. Instead she nodded firmly with GO NOW. The concerned parent was able to take concerns directly to Ministry and Oversight, meeting at that very moment in a room downstairs from where RantWoman and the concerned parent were speaking. It turned out that one Act NOW step was needed and additional follow up is promised. RantWoman observed several subsequent conversations occurring; RantWoman heard thanks from several Friends for helping the concerned parent find the right channels. You’re welcome. Or it wasn’t just RantWoman it was ….

Upon further reflection, RantWoman does not necessarily think Friends with the sort of concern written of here should have to rely on the foggy chance that the person they feel able to talk to of concerns will know how to identify members of Ministry and Oversight at this gathering. RantWoman has no opinion about how to address that concern but will hold it....

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Freight Train: Tour Guide

RantWoman reminds her readers of her pending Interest Group at Quarterly Meeting

http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2011/09/interest.html

RantWoman wrote her proposal for her interest group at Quarterly Meeting. Then more events transpired and RantWoman was led to ask for input. RantWoman asked for input in one of her trademark email immoderation emails, this time to a LONG list of people who either personally have earned the email or...:


Hi Friends

This email is a request for input The bottom of this message is a description of an interest group I will lead at Quarterly Meeting, that is unless I find a way to get from Lazy F where I need to be on
Friday night to Yakima for an interpreter training (on handling trauma issues, oddly enough) on Saturday 9/24. Chances are I will make the interest group and this is a request for input.

Awhile ago my clearness committee suggested I talk to children in our Meeting about life with vision loss. For a few different reasons I am clear that it would be better to start by talking to adults.

What would you most like to know about my experience?

What do you find bewildering about interacting with me?

What worries or observations do you have?

Is there someone else you wish I would ask

I DO NOT apologize for email. For one thing, you writing me back helps me keep track of things in a format I can search MUCH better than my notes in my ever scarier handwriting. I am happy to receive phone calls as well but another reason I like to start with email is that I am frequently awake later than many Friends and need to make effective use of my own time.

Also I am having to tell different people the same things over and over, including arguing various variations of "that could not possibly be a problem because we are so sincere, already spent so much time doing it wrong, think we understand based on..."

Some of the time this repetition is just exhausting. Some of the time I come away feeling drained the same way I feel drained when I have had to interpret for, say, a series of appointments with a trauma
survivor and an attorney, the trauma survivor getting restimulated having to relive the story once to tell it, once when the attorney has mashed my interpretation into the kinds of sentences that legal
entities understand or need to hear and I have to sight translate to check for corrections, and then the survivor has to repeat the story AGAIN in front of third parties of varying levels of awareness,
hostility, eptitude / ineptness, responsiveness... Only now it's my
story....

So I would like to get to clear messages much more widely understood and to get there as directly as possible.


Anyway, I mean it about wanting to hear Friends questions. I do not particularly promise to get to all of them in one interest group but I am happy to hold and work with them. Depending on interest, I am happy to consider doing a session at UFM either before or after the Interest Group at Quarterly Meeting.


Here is the workshop description:

Name of Interest Group:
Howling about Diminishments:
The RantWoman Guide to Midlife Vision Meltdown

Description: This interest group is devoted to everything you never
thought you wanted to know about midlife vision loss. What constitutes
“everything” will be determined by leadings of Spirit the day of the
event.

“Everything” may include accessibility measures during silent worship,
a badly-behaved white cane, favorite Bible bits, Braille, reading,
faith healing, Quakerism aboard the bus, nodding and grunting, advice
for elderly drivers, advice for those fretting about elderly drivers,
blogging, and other topics as led.There will also be time for sharing
out of silence.

Thank you for whatever observations you are led to offer.

In the Light

(RantWoman)


From Friend with Many Weighty Titles, some pointedly omitted)
Dear (RantWoman)

If I were coming to your interest group, the thing that first occurs to me is talking about body language - in committee meetings, business meeting, even worship. I think this is a really hard thing for folks to get (and remember!). Your comment in Business Meeting yesterday about nodding as a way of showing approval was very helpful and appropriate. Giving examples would be great. Would you even consider a little role playing with most folks blindfolded?

I have found your comments about kids running around to be another very
important and useful comment, since we don't think about it.

I hope you do get to give this interest group and look forward to hearing
about it.

Friend with Numerous Weighty Titles, some pointedly omitted.


Dear Friend (Numerous Weighty Friend Titles),

Thank you for your suggestions and observations.

First a process point: THIS EMAIL DOES NOT REQUIRE IMMEDIATE RESPONSE. This came in as a reply/all to everyone on my original To: list. I am aware of others' grumbles about email AND I mean to take this partly as an invitation to tell a number of people the same things at the same time and to give you the option of clicking or not clicking on the individual blog posts. That way, if I grumble about how exhausting it is to have endless one on one conversations and if you want to talk amongst yourselves, you are at least all starting from common
information.

Second, I do not particularly apologize for the length. In fact
considering the freight train of matters frying my nerves this week, I
hope you will appreciate my comparative restraint. On the other hand,
if you want to unload some more cars....

--Body language? It's not exactly body language but everything to do
with non-verbal communication. On one hand, I ask people to tell me
when I offend them because I am pretty sure I achieve that more often
than would be preferable and REALLY cannot read faces and am lost
without verbal feedback.
The other aspect of not reading faces though is in a number of
situations I have possibly misinterpreted another speaker (I need to
talk to one person in particular) or I have felt like lots of people
are inappropriately unresponsive to or show serious lack of awareness
about something emotional where some kind of acknowledgment of
difficulty or complexity would be entirely appropriate. The
illustration I have used a couple times is a bit from I think Monty
Python and the Holy Grail where everyone is seated at some kind of
wedding and some knight shows up and starts hacking off hunks of
people while the guests just keep doing whatever and do not even
react. Ask me about exact situations in person or consider whether
this perspective might shed light something you have experienced.

--At my proposed interest group I will do some of the things I do
when I run other meetings as well as a couple additional things.

--Here are a couple blog posts about my experiences in meetings.
Meeting for worship has a whole bunch of links below separately.

with some links to follow
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2011/06/interrupt.html

meeting for memorial, but still
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2011/07/agnes-schmoe.html


--A miscellaneous item about running into people, my white cane and a certain much-discussed Friend's ministry of audible eye-rolling.
http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2011/06/not-blind-that-we-know-of.html


--I do not think I want to consider role-playing at this event but given enthusiasm I hear (two other voices), I will hold in future consideration for a number of reasons:
--blindfolds are only one form of representing different non-standard visual experiences. Here are a couple blog entries about my experience specifically:

http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2010/08/do-it-yourself-eye-surgery-and-plague.html

http://rantwomanrsof.blogspot.com/2010/12/worse-auntie-grow-your-own-lava-lamp.html


--I am nowhere near centered enough right now about a number of topics to lead a roleplay exercise. I will do well to stay centered enough to talk and do not want to think about ways of handing out
alternate vision experiences. A couple years ago, I was part of a presentation about disaster
preparedness for people with disabilities.
http://rantwoman.blogspot.com/2009/04/super-duper-powerpoint-festival.html

http://rantwoman.blogspot.com/2009/04/taxed.html

http://rantwoman.blogspot.com/search?q=pantyhose

Before my presentation I got to go to a really great disability simulation exercise put on by someone at the Hearing Speech and Deafness Center. I am more inclined to find a forum where someone from
outside can be invited to, say, UFM than to try it on my own.

I think I should stop here for now. If you have made it this far, thank you for reading. I am happy to talk in person or by phone--or not.

In the Light
(RantWoman)

Monday, September 5, 2011

Service Dogs: current ADA technical assistance

RantWoman is posting the following link shorn of baggage for information and reference:

http://www.ada.gov/service_animals_2010.htm


While RantWoman is at it, with no comment about whetehr Quakers sell tickets to anything:

http://www.ada.gov/ticketing_2010.htm


Added after the fact FYI
http://www.seeingeye.org/news/default.aspx?M_ID=382

Monday, August 15, 2011

An Old Directory: The Monroe Worship Group at WSR Monroe

RantWoman has decided she is absolutely clear to talk, particularly if asked, based on her experience as a member of the Monroe Worship Group or as it was more formally called in places like the NPYM directory, the Monroe Worship Group at the WA State Reformatory at Monroe.

RantWoman is unclear whether her own name ever appeared in the directory for that Worship Group. As long as RantWoman is going to use the full bureaucratic title, she also considered using people's real names. RantWoman considered this on Quaker integrity grounds. However, RantWoman means to include a couple memorable moments that to RantWoman seem best with noms de blog.

RantWoman knows she has a couple old directories. However the Monroe Worship Group dated from 1988 to about 2003 and RantWoman does not want to dig up her old directories. RantWoman is fuzzy about when the worship group was laid down; RantWoman participated only for a few months in the early 1990's. In general, the number of Friends who even remember the group is limited and speaking of it has interesting historical value.

RantWoman is clear to speak but means to speak as clearly as possible. To that end, she decided she needed to contact....Conflict is a Gift of God Friend for some oral history including the dates above. The Monroe Worship Group was started by some inmates at the Monroe Reformatory who became interested in Quakerism as a result of meeting Friends involved in Alternatives to Violence workshops at the prison.

In its early years the Monroe Worship Group met under sponsorship of a chaplain who would let inmates and outside sponsors into their designated room in the chapel on First Days before he went next door for his Protestant service. In practice apparently the group met about twice a month for a number of years. Conflict Is a Gift of God Friend also remembered one long argument with the Protestant Chaplain about the theology of "we are all ministers of God" and the fact that some Quaker bodies do have recorded ministers. RantWoman admits that the capacity not only to have such arguments but also to stay centered while they are in progress is one reason RantWoman has historically deeply admired Conflict is a Gift of God Friend.

Some of the inmates had wives. Other inmate members married women they met through Alternatives to Violence. Because of this there was interest in holding family worship in a room off the main visiting room, in a different building than the chapel. After two years of laboring with Department of Corrections staff about the issue, the group was allowed to hold family worship once a month, not in the chapel but in a room off the visiting room. One of the objections raised when Friends first began applying to hold family worship was that other denominations would also want to do that. Conflict Is a Gift of God Friend said "and what would be wrong with that?" In practice, although 3 other denominations besides Friends were all assigned Sundays each month, only the Quaker group ever actually held family worship.

The Monroe Worship group involved Friends from University, Salmon Bay, and Eastside Friends Meetings. Therefore Friends felt it rightly ordered that the worship group be directly under the care of Pacific Northwest Quarterly Meeting. The worship group was laid down when all but one of the current members either got transferred to other institutions or released.

Conflict is a Gift of God Friend reported that many years there have been one AVP workshop / month. Currently, though, after the murder of the prison guard at Monroe several months ago, AVP workshops at Monroe and its sister facility Twin Rivers have been suspended and, according to what Conflict...Friend hears are unlikely to be permitted to resume anytime soon.

In the course of conversation about the Monroe Worship Group, RantWoman also asked a few questions about Alternatives to Violence and what process of training and observation inmate participants in Alternatives to Violence workshops go through before they become inmate facilitators. RantWoman was thinking of the Friend with the remarkable story who recently introduced himself in worship and came to a picnic. Conflict...Friend spoke highly of the Friend with the Remarkable Story as an inmate facilitator but RantWoman may or may not write more detail in another post.

RantWoman has also been thinking of another connection to the Monroe Worship Group. RantWoman spent a fair amount of time riding back and forth to the prison with other members of the worship group. One worked for the Department of Corrections. Conflict is a Gift of God Friend also talked of his work as an AVP facilitator. Both Friends spoke frankly of their assessments of different inmates' journeys and prospects upon release. It was these car rides as much as anything else that led RantWoman to clarity, when the future Safest Sex Offender on the planet introduced himself to RantWoman at coffee hour, that Conflict is a Gift of God Friend would be an excellent person to assist the new attender!

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Fall Quarterly Meeting: Building Vibrant Meetings

Fall 2011 session of Pacific Northwest Quarterly Meeting, to be held September 23-25 at Lazy F Camp and Retreat Center near Ellensburg.

The theme for the Fall 2011 Pacific Northwest Quarterly Meeting session will be "Building Vibrant Meetings”.

The Saturday morning plenary session will be facilitated by John Helding, a member of Bellingham Friends Meeting who attends Lopez Island Preparative Meeting. John is also a member of Friends General Conference's Quaker Quest Travel Team, http://www.fgcquaker.org/quakerquest  and he has facilitated workshops in a wide variety of Friendly settings. The details of the plenary session are being developed over the next few weeks, and will be available after mid-August.

Tacoma Friends Meeting is the host for this Quarterly Meeting session.


The deadline for registration for the upcoming session is Wednesday, September 7th, after which a late-registration fee of $25 per form will be charged. The early registration deadline is August 24th. All forms postmarked or emailed by that date will receive a $10 discount. The packet will be available by about August 1st for downloading from our website, http://www.pnqm.org/  .

RantWoman assumes that if you can find RantWoman in the blogosphere, you can download your own forms or leave a comment, equivalent to sending RantWoman email with coordinates to have forms delivered some other way. RantWoman definitely wants to uphold the efforts of Friends organizing this event; RantWoman especially wants to uphold Friends' efforts to get a tiny amount more information out in time for a couple weekly bulletin announcements before the early registration cutoff. Demanding oppressive RantWoman or else RantWoman needs to check in about whether something she thinks she volunteered to do would help in this regard. Do it thyself, Friend.